Online Dating seems to be the next best thing when it comes to meeting people. You can sit in the comfort of your own home and scroll through profile after profile until you've found a match. BUT I must admit there is an anxiety I have when I'm on these sites and trust me if there's a dating site out there, I've tried it. Plenty of Fish, OK Cupid, Black People Meet, Tinder, Match.com, EHarmony, Christians Mingle...the list goes on and on and on honey!
But for some reason, when I try the online dating sites I'm not able to find someone who catches my attention or who can hold my attention longer than a couple weeks. It's rare that I find someone in "real life" let alone online who knows how to hold a real verbal conversation past "How was your day?" That's a sad reality but it's reality no less. Especially with the growing popularity of texting and social media. We are no longer required to be human beings. We have become robots glued to our phones, computers, & IPads so it's quite natural for us to no longer have the skill needed to hold a decent, intelligent conversation. Then there's the types of men, on theses sites, who are attracted to me...now I'm not an unattractive woman by any stretch of the word and desire to be with someone with some physical attraction. But as I've gotten older I've come to accept those things that I cannot control like a little weight or age or even a checkered past. I can, however, tell you that it is frustrating when most of the men on these sites aren't remotely the kind of man they portray themselves to be. Dud after Dud after Dud gets redundant and exhausting. I just wish we could be more honest about presenting the authentic self as opposed to our representative.
My how I TRULY miss the olden days. Back in the 1900's we didn't have to deal with these issues. I remember meeting someone and anticipating their phone call and staying up for hours engrossed in conversation. I remember receiving notes and letters from admirers. I also remember that long walk a man used to take from across a crowded room just to meet you. Those were the times when dating seemed more meaningful. You had to be a real man or woman back then because it forced you to be a more effective communicator. No hiding behind a profile name or a profile picture. No hiding behind your written credentials. Just you and the other person, face to face. I guess that is a thing of the past but I refuse to conform to this notion that finding a mate online is my ONLY option. So, in the meantime I will continue to take myself out and put myself in position to meet someone special. He's out there somewhere and whoever he is he will love me UNCONDITIONALLY. So until next time ladies, treat yourself with love and respect and remember to "DATEYOURSELFGIRL"!